The relationship between religious adherence and marital satisfaction of couples of Islamic Azad University, Kermanshah Research Sciences Unit in the academic year 92-93

Dissertation to receive the master's degree in Psychology (M.A)

Abstract

The present study was conducted with the aim of determining the relationship between marital satisfaction and religious adherence of couples. This research is a type of correlational research and has been done in an applied way. For this purpose, 74 couples of students of Islamic Azad University, Kermanshah Research Science Unit were randomly sampled. The data collected by Islamic marital satisfaction and religious adherence questionnaires, which have the required validity, were analyzed using Pearson correlation, analysis of variance and other statistical indicators. The data analysis showed that there is a significant and positive relationship between religious adherence and marital satisfaction, and religious adherence has a predictive role in marital satisfaction. And with the increase in religious adherence, the amount of marital satisfaction has increased. The findings showed that the marital satisfaction score among couples who both adhere to religion is higher than couples in which one of them adheres to religion, and couples in which one adheres to religion have more marital satisfaction than couples in which neither adheres to religion. And marital satisfaction was not significantly different between men and women.

Key words: marital satisfaction, religious adherence, couples

Introduction

Family as a social unit has the most and deepest human relationships. In addition to being considered as the primary source of the basic needs of a person, it provides many opportunities for learning and the formation of attitudes and beliefs. Along with the responsibility of education, the family plays a very effective role in meeting physical and psychological needs and transmitting social values. In the context of the family, a person learns the demands of the society and this knowledge leads him to choose certain behaviors (Moslehi 1391, 1).

Since choosing a spouse is one of the most important decisions that are made in forming a family and social life, the importance of the issue requires a deeper investigation into external factors such as religion, social class, age, education, etc. Also, basic factors such as personality traits should be taken into consideration (Moslehi 1391, 1)

Family psychology experts often put their criteria in examining the quality of couples' marital relationships, their level of marital satisfaction. Marital satisfaction is one of the most important factors to progress and achieve life goals, which is influenced by external and internal factors. Despite the fact that the need to pay attention to the similarity of religious beliefs and cultural tendencies is always emphasized. The increase in divorce in today's world and the dissatisfaction of couples with living together and the bad effects of such phenomena on family members and society, indicate the claim that an acceptable approach to forming a family and not being married has been viewed less with a scholarly perspective (Moslehi 1391, 1).

The most important point in explaining the philosophy of marriage in the Qur'an is that it is God who expresses the wisdom of marriage and family formation. It does not refer to the decree of creating a wife and forming a family, the survival of the generation with a righteous child, or the prevention of corruption, or the development of moral and social values, or the development of Islamic values, but rather, it refers to wisdom without which none of the goals of human creation can be realized, and that is mental peace. Without mental peace, one cannot expect piety from the youth. Without this peace, neither a healthy and righteous generation will emerge, nor moral and social construction will take place, nor will religious values ??and the ideal of monotheism spread (Pasandideh 1389, 23).

One who is thinking of marriage or getting married, expects that this life or happiness will be accompanied by happiness and satisfaction and will enjoy all the moments of his life. Therefore, what is more important than marriage itself is success in marriage or in other words, satisfaction between couples (Bradbury, Fincham and Veitch [1], 2000).

Mousavi states that economic, religious, social customs and traditions, emotional satisfaction, sexual satisfaction and intellectual understanding can bring marital satisfaction (Mousavi 1374, 43).

Hanler2 and Ganchoz3 also believe that religious attitude can be effective in marital relationship, because religion contains guidelines for life and provides a system of beliefs and values ??that these characteristics can affect married life (Khodayari Fard, 2016).

Hanler 2 and Ganchoz 3 also believe that the religious attitude can be effective in the marital relationship, because religion includes guidelines for life and provides a system of beliefs and values ??that these characteristics can affect married life (Khodayari Fard, 2016)

1-1 Statement of the problem

According to religious teachings, one of the most important issues that provides peace and satisfaction in married life It is permissible for couples to adhere to religious orders. Marital happiness is realized when the husband and wife have a good relationship with the origin and do good deeds for their resurrection and adhere to the divine commands and orders, not that the issues of life entertain them so much that they neglect the remembrance of God (Munafqun: 9) or distance themselves from religious duties for the sake of the family (Tamimi Amadi 1366, 186). It is the duty of the husband and wife to warn each other against sinning against God, and the man is more responsible in this regard (Tahrim: 6). Adherence or non-adherence to divine orders by both of them provides the basis for satisfaction or dissatisfaction of married life.

Life without conflict is in the shadow of paying attention to spiritual issues and cultivating religious beliefs. Values ??give meaning to life and are considered a refuge at the critical peak of life, such as sadness, loss and mourning. Religious beliefs are the foundation for shaping a religious lifestyle. This issue makes the Muslim person to have a special responsibility and role in cultivating spirituality in himself and his relatives. According to religious teachings, it is a sweet and pleasant life in which spirituality grows and life takes on the color of God (Khatib, 2010, 35). Imam Ali says: God Almighty said to the Prophet (PBUH) in the Hadith of the Ascension: "Do you know which life is more honest"? Hazrat said: "God's burden? No". He said: "A happy life is that life whose owner does not get tired of remembering me, does not forget my favors, is not ignorant of my rights and seeks my pleasure" (Majlesi 1404 AH, 77:28).

In an article that explains religion, religiosity and its indicators from the perspective of Allameh Tabatabai, Mehori states about the quorum of religiosity: Religiosity is the same faith and heart belief accompanied by worthy actions and conviction. It is good and necessary for faith, knowledge and awareness (Salarifar, 2010). Therefore, science is not religion without commitment and attachment and that it is followed by action. Also, belief without action is not religiosity, and a believer who does not act cannot be considered religious, but according to Allameh Tabatabai, a belief that is not accompanied by action is not really belief and faith, and is only knowledge and awareness of the truth of religion. Action alone is not considered as faith and religiosity, because outward actions can be combined with hypocrisy and hypocrisy. A hypocrite is someone who performs outward actions and may be aware of the truth of Islamic beliefs and the truth has become clearer to him, but since he has no attachment and commitment to it, he cannot be considered a religious person. In short, according to the ranks and degrees that exist for Islam and faith, the first order of faith should be considered as the quorum of religiosity for an individual and society, and it is a general belief along with the fulfillment of most Islamic rules (Salari Far, 1390, 423). Also, don't marry him because of money, because money can be the cause of his rebellion. Rather, be aware of the capital of his religion and marry a woman with faith."                             (Faiz Kashani 1417 AH, 850:3)

In another hadith it is narrated from Imam Baqir (a.s.) that the Messenger of God said: "When someone comes to you with whom you are satisfied with his morals and religion, give him a wife." If you don't do this, great sedition and corruption will happen on earth" (Sabri Yazdi 1375, 431). It is also stated in the Holy Quran that a believing man should marry a believing woman (Baqarah: 221). The results of the research have also proven that couples are the same in their religious beliefs and faith and piety as effective factors in the success of marriages (Ahmadi, 2006).

Paying attention to these concepts and considering the results of the conducted research confirms the role of religious imitations in marital satisfaction and compatibility; Undoubtedly, people who know God and believe in religion and those who follow the rules and Sharia of Islam, consider the criteria of religion as one of the main criteria in choosing for marriage; they protect their cover, hijab and look (three factors that are the basis of moral deviations); They accept their spouses as God's servants and avoid cruelty to them. In their relationships with their spouses, they behave with honesty, compassion and kindness while observing health principles, and all their behavior and actions, even sexual relations with their spouses, have a divine orientation, therefore, it can be expected that marital satisfaction is affected by the level of religious observance of individuals.